Not few times I have heard around me people get worried about their Child’s Aggressive Behavior and mostly by young and ‘young’ parents who are giving everything and feel exhausted while trying to handle their own child’s behavior. Most of the time it is a fact that might feel that they have failed as parents and they just give up letting their child on automating pilot to drive itself out through this cloudy and stormy period that is going through.
Let me be clear! Both boys and girls can be aggressive. Sex doesn’t matter. Aggressive behavior may be depicted only in a few and specific times but also the child might express this kind of behavior often or constantly and this is becoming a serious problem for the child, the parents and the people in their environment.
Where does Child’s Aggressive Behavior come from?
Children are what we say ‘tabula rasa’. They absorb information and they learn aggressiveness by witnessing adults behaving aggressively or by watching violence on the TV. Genetics and biology can also play a huge role in this kind of behavior.
Causes of Aggressiveness
Kids diagnosed with bipolar disorder can become aggressive mostly when they are having a manic episode rather when they are depressed. Kids may manifest this kind of behavior because of their anxiety or frustration to express themselves like in the case of autism or intellectual impairment. Children with ADHD can be impulsive and not thinking while expressing aggressiveness. Types of epilepsy. When there is some kind of injury in the brain of the child, can manifest such behavior. When children are undergoing an emotional problem aggressiveness behavior can be provoked. This is more obvious in the case of witnessing domestic violence or even a ‘bad’ divorce. But also learning problems can cause this kind of behavior to be expressed towards teachers and peers. If the last happens is usually caused because of undiagnosed learning disorders.
When do I have to get worried?
All the children express their anger but when do we need to get alarmed?
- If your child’s tantrums and outbursts are occurring past the age of 7 or 8 years old when it is expected.
- If the child’s behavior becomes dangerous to himself or its peers
- If the behavior is causing to the child serious problems at school
- If the aggressiveness is interfering with the ability to get along with other kids (play dates and birthday parties)
- If a child’s tantrums and meltdowns are causing a lot of troubles at home and disrupting a healthy family life
- If the child is getting angry with itself because of a lack of control
How to handle it
- Get involved. Intervention should always include parents;
- Do not give in to your child’s wishes. If you do that teaches that its tantrums do work to get what he wants.
- Try to remain calm. Kids learn from our own behaviors, be their role model.
- Always praise positive behavior. Praise your child appropriate conduct and ignore her negative behavior.
- Reward the positive behavior of the child.
- Talk to the child after an aggressive behavior.
- Find various techniques for the child to use to calm down (deep breathing, counting to ten, etc)
- Be aware of the child’s progress to school, ask teachers to inform you. You should try to diagnose early and learning problems.
- Visit a therapist to diagnose ADHD, Conduct and Mood Disorders and for the child to get the correct and appropriate treatment.